“John would know what to do. If only he were here right now.”
Have you ever said something like that to yourself?
Next time you are in a tight spot wishing for a hero or heroine to come and save the day, conjure up that person in your mind. Make believe that they are actually present and imagine what they would suggest doing next.
They won’t say “give up and go home”. They would NEVER say that!
So, what would they say instead?
What happens if you follow the advice? What happens if you don’t?
As you listen, realise that it is a part of you speaking, perhaps a more heroic part.
And of course, you might choose to have more than one heroic figure come to your rescue – because you can. They all have different skills and strengths that you can use.
Some even have a billowing cape and shiny underpants 🙂
Here are some more tools on self-coaching.
My best wishes, Paul
