People talk about you behind your back.
What do they say?
When you pick up a glass, you leave a mark – a fingerprint. When you meet people, you leave an emotional fingerprint.
What’s your emotional fingerprint?
That emotional fingerprint shapes how people describe you when you’re not in the room.
People usually say nicer things about us than we say to ourselves. We are often our own harshest critic.
It helps to understand how others perceive us so we can update our view of ourselves because our view of ourselves has such a massive impact on what we think we can do, and can succeed at, and what we never even try.
So, it’s worth finding out how others actually experience you. Ask for feedback about the feeling you leave behind.
Here are some questions to spark that conversation:
- What do I do that adds distinctive, measurable value to you?
- What do you see me being proud of?
- What am I the ‘go-to’ person for?
- What am I famous for?
- What one word describes how you remember me?
Try asking three people this week, and compare what you hear with the story you tell yourself.
My best wishes, Paul
