February 16, 2026

Who’s really holding whose hand?

Child's hand holding on to a man's hand

I came across this little story recently, and it really made me stop and think, so I’m sharing it with you here.

A little girl and her father were crossing a narrow bridge.

The father was worried about his daughter’s safety, so he said, “Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.”

The little girl replied, “No, Dad. You hold my hand.”

“What’s the difference?” asked the puzzled father.

“There’s a big difference,” she said. “If I hold your hand and something happens to me, I might let go. But if you hold my hand, I know that no matter what happens, you will never let go.”

Now pause for a moment and let this sink in.

In the relationships that really matter in your life, where do you feel you are holding on, and where do you feel deeply held?

My best wishes, Paul

Paul Matthews

CEO and Founder of People Alchemy

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