We’re very good at measuring ourselves against the wrong things.
We compare our behind-the-scenes to other people’s highlight reels. We notice what we’re not good at and quietly decide we should fix that first.
Call it the comparison trap.
The problem is this: when you focus only on closing weaknesses, you often end up average at best. When you lean into strengths, you create something distinctive.
So, a few questions.
What do people consistently come to you for?
When do you feel most effective, not just busy?
Where do your results come more easily than they “should”?
This week, try one small shift:
- List 3 things you’re genuinely good at (not modest, just accurate).
- Ask 2 colleagues where they see you at your best.
- Choose one task and deliberately use a strength to do it differently.
Jane Wagner wrote, “I always wanted to be somebody, but I should have been more specific.”
Maybe the question isn’t how to be better.
It’s how to be more you, on purpose.
My best wishes, Paul
